This article only deals with non criminal actions within small social group settings such as family, co-workers, friends, and school since this is where the majority of men spend their time. Some of these reputations get flipped on their head when you’re famous (or infamous), but that is not within the scope of this article.
1) A known liar– You’re lying out of insecurity and trying to impress someone or you honestly believe your own bullshit and think they’re stupid enough to believe it too. Which ever it is, cut that shit out.
Best case: White lies, chronic exaggerator.
Worst case: Sociopathic levels of lying. Bold faced attention seeking lies. Saying you’ll do something and never following through.
2) A gossip– Just remember, it always gets back to them, and the eventual ass kicking will get back to you.
Best case: Harmless infrequent jokes about public information.
Worst case: Betrayal of another persons trusted secrets. Chronic shit talking.
3) A complainer- Life is difficult, no one cares for you’re complaints. Choose an action and follow through. If there is a legitimate concern by all means address it, if not, stay quiet.
Best case: A funny joke about a shared group complaint.
Worst case: Chronic frivolous complaints.
The overarching value that runs through most of these is trust. That is what keeps small groups humming along and once you betray that the group is splintered and easily destroyed. If you carry one of these sordid reputations there are only two ways to rehabilitate it. The first is to simply move on to another group, but they too will see through the facade eventually. The second is intensive character building and relationship repair. Expect months if not years of constantly working to fix the damage you incurred, but in the end you all become stronger for it.